I often wonder why some(most?) people I know act so insensitively. The primary cause for this inquiry are those who frequently say they will call sometime in the future to go out for some type of social activity(usually involving caffeine, beer and/or pizza) but never honor their commitment.(do they even remember?) I seem to be the one who always makes the effort, not that it is successful, but am I wrong in thinking there needs to be reciprocity?
It’s no secret that what little social life I’ve experienced usually revolved around relationships I managed to establish thru work. At my present job I am a virtual(home office) worker where the closest co-worker is 130 miles away.(the next closest is 250 miles) Not good for a quick trip to Starbucks to help unwind by discussing the nature of the universe.(something we did frequently at my previous job where I worked in an office with real co-workers) After being laid off I hoped one or two of those folks would occasionally think of me and suggest an outing for old times sake, but no luck. My efforts to do the same never seem to bear fruit unless I ask at least twice. I worry that I am forcing myself on others who, given a preference, would rather just do their own thing. Yeah, I know, woe is me, self pity and all that crap isn’t something I need to be wallowing in especially this time of the year but there it is anyway.
If I wasn’t so sure of the outcome, a New Year’s resolution to not phone or email anyone to go out, choosing instead to wait for them to contact me would seem tempting.