again with the questions

This is NOT a quiz. Just me wondering about things I’ve observed.
Does a relationship have a “half-life” like a radioactive isotope? (when friends are separated by distance does the friendship necessarily cease over time?)
What is the rate of decay between people? (people change, does this mean their friendships change also?)
Questions of “etiquette”-
When waiting for a response to an invitation is there a standard interval before you take the initiative?
How many times should you issue an invitation before giving up?
Once someone has accepted and fulfilled your request should you expect reciprocity?

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About Marcus

Who me? Introverted, neurotic, self-absorbed, increasingly cynical observer of human nature and part time social critic in hiding. Most of my life spent avoiding growing up. The naive idealistic passions of youth have evolved into the eclectic eccentricities of adulthood. Northeast Florida small-town native, related to people I can't relate to. Simultaneously my own best friend and worst enemy. Politically and spiritually unaffiliated, my personal ideologies put me all over the map or off it completely.
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2 Responses to again with the questions

  1. mrsmartian says:

    I used to believe that long distance friendships didn’t work. I thought they would fizzle out without some sort of physical connection. I doubted that a meeting of minds really existed, couldn’t exist without, at least, the occasional meeting.
    Now i know that simply isn’t true. Of course, it takes a little more effort to maintain than a “see you soon” relationship but i honestly haven’t noticed any waning of affection.
    As for the second question, yes, friendships do change. If they’re to last, they shrink or stretch to accommodate changing circumstances and opinions. Evolve or die. I think that’s how it goes.
    You should only issue an invitation according to how much you want the person to accept.You shouldn’t expect anything to be reciprocated unless it’s love or good advice.

  2. chained2u2 says:

    Friends wane with the passing of time and distance but you can fly hundreds of miles to see them and it will feel so normal to have them there again. It’s easy to pick up the old friendship. Regarding etiquette-you can give them a week to respond then ask again but don’t ask more than 3 times and don’t expect them to ask you in return. Some people just aren’t comfortable asking but are more than willing to go if it fits their schedule.
    dj

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